You Are Where You Sit: Lessons in Compromise in a Divided Country

“An inside look at techniques and strategies that can aid dispute resolution efforts in virtually any setting.” —Robert Rothman, author of A Terrible Guilt

You Are Where You Sit: Lessons in Compromise in a Divided Country is a comprehensive guide to achieving effective compromise in an increasingly polarized world. Author Rodger T. Kraft presents seven essential lessons drawn from historical examples, political negotiations, and business crises to demonstrate how compromise can resolve conflicts and bridge divides.

Following the central premise that people’s viewpoints are shaped by their circumstances, beliefs, and experiences—hence “you are where you sit,” Kraft argues that the erosion of basic societal values, amplified by mass media and social media manipulation, has created entrenched positions that make compromise increasingly difficult. He contends that viable solutions typically lie in the middle ground between opposing sides.

The seven lessons are illustrated through detailed case studies spanning decades of American history and contemporary events. Throughout these examples, Kraft demonstrates how applying or failing to apply these lessons leads to either successful compromises or costly confrontations. The book concludes with warnings about appeasement versus true compromise and reflections on how political extremism on both sides undermines democratic governance.